Neutralize the Effects of Toxic People

Neutralize the Effects of Toxic People

Learn to neutralize the effects of toxic people in your life. Toxic people are those whose effects on you drag you away from who you are and what you need to accomplish. They can be self-absorbed, critical, irresponsible, controlling or any number of aspects. Sometimes you can just end the relationship, as in firing a person or ending a dating relationship. Sometimes, in a marriage or partnership or family setting, totally ending the relationship might not be the best way. So learn to neutralize their effects in order to stay healthy and productive. 

Here is the #1 key to this: deinvest from what you are needing from them. To deinvest is to get your needs met from another source: needs for respect, empathy, compassion and acceptance. Stop drinking from an empty well and go to people who have what you need, but in an appropriate way. You don't have to leave the relationship, or act out. But you do need to neutralize what is happening to you.